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pumpkinhollow ([personal profile] pumpkinhollow) wrote in [community profile] ph_memes2024-03-15 07:24 pm
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Monthly Meme - The AITAs of March

BEWARE THE AITAS
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ry havoc, and let slip the hounds of war interpersonal conflict! In this month's mingle, spin us a yarn of drama, suspense, romance, or petty arguments. Submit the tale for judgement to the court of public opinion, in pursuit of the answer to one all-important question--- "Am I the asshole?" You may defend yourself, but ultimately it is up to your neighbors to decide your fate.

Unlike other public forums, we don't have any rules about fake stories, validation posts, excessive arguments in the comments, or stabbing the emperor. Fudge details to your heart's content, but don't be surprised if the other people involve in the story jump in with a counter-argument. To vote, here is a glossary of important shorthand:

  • OP - "Original poster", the person who submitted the story
  • YTA - "You're the Asshole," for when the OP is the primary wrongdoer
  • NTA - "Not the Asshole," for when the OP is the one who was wronged
  • NAH - "No Assholes Here," for when no one is technically in the wrong, the conflict was simply a misunderstanding
  • ESH - "Everyone Sucks Here," for when all parties are in the wrong and all of you should be ashamed of yourselves
  • JAH - "Justified Asshole," for when OP is definitely an asshole, but for good reason
  • INFO - "Information," for when the story is too vague to make a decision, usually followed by a question

Stories should include the OP's name in brackets and then a punchy title in the subject line. Additionally, you may use [ANONYMOUS] in place of your name--- this will allow players to know who OP is, but the characters will not know. Have fun!

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[personal profile] astrogator 2024-03-16 05:50 pm (UTC)(link)
NTA, clingy people are annoying and if you were open about wanting a single overnight he had no right to bother you for more.

Their problems with each other couldn't have been predicted by you with the information you had, and weren't your fault.
Edited 2024-03-16 17:50 (UTC)
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[personal profile] cacophonish 2024-03-16 07:14 pm (UTC)(link)
I meeeaaaan... I guess I didn't tell him outright? But, like, I didn't tell him I wanted to date him either.

Though, come to think of it, I remember him mentioning a girlfriend the night we hooked up...

And he talked to me about his relationship insecurities...

And he might've said her name, but I thought it was a big coincidence?
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[personal profile] astrogator 2024-03-17 11:05 am (UTC)(link)
It sounds like they weren't in formal contract, and even if they were, other people's contract-breaking isn't your fault.

You should have been clear about your expectations though. I understand, because where I'm from an overnight is just an overnight, no strings. Trouble is, people from different cultures can make wildly different assumptions.