Monthly Meme - The AITAs of March

[pumpkinhollow]

BEWARE THE AITAS

C

ry havoc, and let slip the hounds of war interpersonal conflict! In this month's mingle, spin us a yarn of drama, suspense, romance, or petty arguments. Submit the tale for judgement to the court of public opinion, in pursuit of the answer to one all-important question--- "Am I the asshole?" You may defend yourself, but ultimately it is up to your neighbors to decide your fate.

Unlike other public forums, we don't have any rules about fake stories, validation posts, excessive arguments in the comments, or stabbing the emperor. Fudge details to your heart's content, but don't be surprised if the other people involve in the story jump in with a counter-argument. To vote, here is a glossary of important shorthand:

• OP - "Original poster", the person who submitted the story
• YTA - "You're the Asshole," for when the OP is the primary wrongdoer
• NTA - "Not the Asshole," for when the OP is the one who was wronged
• NAH - "No Assholes Here," for when no one is technically in the wrong, the conflict was simply a misunderstanding
• ESH - "Everyone Sucks Here," for when all parties are in the wrong and all of you should be ashamed of yourselves
• JAH - "Justified Asshole," for when OP is definitely an asshole, but for good reason
• INFO - "Information," for when the story is too vague to make a decision, usually followed by a question

Stories should include the OP's name in brackets and then a punchy title in the subject line. Additionally, you may use [ANONYMOUS] in place of your name--- this will allow players to know who OP is, but the characters will not know. Have fun!

Comments

AITA for being too honest?

[cacophonish]

So one time I (20m at the time) hooked up with this dude (??m) at a party and it was all good, there was nothing special about it. He got kind of clingy, like he opened up to be a LOT over the night, and he called me a few times after, but it was just a one night deal. No strings attached or anything, you know?

That SHOULD be the end of the story.

A couple weeks later, I started hooking up with this chick (??f) I met at a gig. We were hanging out at her place just chatting about life and feelings and stuff like that, like normal pillow talk stuff. I looked over at her bedside table and saw a photo of her and a bunch of people I know-- including the dude! So I pointed him out and was like, "Oh, hey, you know [dude's name] too? He's cute but way too fucking clingy."

This chick had such a poker face, she was like, totally calm, friendly, just curious, you know? She was like, "Oh? How do you know him?" And I said we'd hooked up.

So she's still totally calm and friendly, and she says she's gotta make a phone call. The next thing I know, she's got him on speaker phone and is yelling at him for cheating on her? Then he's yelling at her for cheating on him, and then the next thing I know they're BOTH blowing up at me about this whole thing? How is this MY fault??

Anyway I put my pants on and escaped as fast as I could. Last I heard they got married and they're totally happy, so like, you're welcome?

So I dunno, AM I the asshole?

[listenforbirdsong]

NTA! These people are idiots. They deserve each other.

[cacophonish]

Yeah, like, if anything, I helped them see how much they love each other!

anon

[astrogator]

NTA, clingy people are annoying and if you were open about wanting a single overnight he had no right to bother you for more.

Their problems with each other couldn't have been predicted by you with the information you had, and weren't your fault.

[cacophonish]

I meeeaaaan... I guess I didn't tell him outright? But, like, I didn't tell him I wanted to date him either.

Though, come to think of it, I remember him mentioning a girlfriend the night we hooked up...

And he talked to me about his relationship insecurities...

And he might've said her name, but I thought it was a big coincidence?

[astrogator]

It sounds like they weren't in formal contract, and even if they were, other people's contract-breaking isn't your fault.

You should have been clear about your expectations though. I understand, because where I'm from an overnight is just an overnight, no strings. Trouble is, people from different cultures can make wildly different assumptions.