Monthly Meme - The AITAs of March

[pumpkinhollow]

BEWARE THE AITAS

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ry havoc, and let slip the hounds of war interpersonal conflict! In this month's mingle, spin us a yarn of drama, suspense, romance, or petty arguments. Submit the tale for judgement to the court of public opinion, in pursuit of the answer to one all-important question--- "Am I the asshole?" You may defend yourself, but ultimately it is up to your neighbors to decide your fate.

Unlike other public forums, we don't have any rules about fake stories, validation posts, excessive arguments in the comments, or stabbing the emperor. Fudge details to your heart's content, but don't be surprised if the other people involve in the story jump in with a counter-argument. To vote, here is a glossary of important shorthand:

• OP - "Original poster", the person who submitted the story
• YTA - "You're the Asshole," for when the OP is the primary wrongdoer
• NTA - "Not the Asshole," for when the OP is the one who was wronged
• NAH - "No Assholes Here," for when no one is technically in the wrong, the conflict was simply a misunderstanding
• ESH - "Everyone Sucks Here," for when all parties are in the wrong and all of you should be ashamed of yourselves
• JAH - "Justified Asshole," for when OP is definitely an asshole, but for good reason
• INFO - "Information," for when the story is too vague to make a decision, usually followed by a question

Stories should include the OP's name in brackets and then a punchy title in the subject line. Additionally, you may use [ANONYMOUS] in place of your name--- this will allow players to know who OP is, but the characters will not know. Have fun!

Comments

[abhorrently]

INFO

How did you not understand her being married? It's a bit of a binary thing.

STILL ANONYMOUS

[restingslasherface]

My native culture rarely practices romance as Marrow Island would understand it, instead favoring relatively anonymous hook-ups or sex work. Though I intellectually understood my partner to be married, associated concepts such as fidelity and monogamy took longer to be consciously realized. There was a pretty long period where "she's married" had about the same mental weight as "she has good fashion sense".

[abhorrently]

I'm going to have to be on the line of NAH. I feel as though you two shouldn't have engaged in a relationship without properly making sure your understanding aligned on things such as fidelity and the like, but if you genuinely care for her, her spouse will see it as well.

Don't expect them to be automatically okay with everything, though. They may feel hurt and need to work through this.