ph_memes | Monthly Meme - The AITAs of March

BEWARE THE AITAS

ry havoc, and let slip the hounds of ~~war~~ interpersonal conflict! In this month's mingle, spin us a yarn of drama, suspense, romance, or petty arguments. Submit the tale for judgement to the court of public opinion, in pursuit of the answer to one all-important question--- "Am I the asshole?" You may defend yourself, but ultimately it is up to your neighbors to decide your fate.

Unlike other public forums, we don't have any rules about fake stories, validation posts, excessive arguments in the comments, or stabbing the emperor. Fudge details to your heart's content, but don't be surprised if the other people involve in the story jump in with a counter-argument. To vote, here is a glossary of important shorthand:

OP - "Original poster", the person who submitted the story
YTA - "You're the Asshole," for when the OP is the primary wrongdoer
NTA - "Not the Asshole," for when the OP is the one who was wronged
NAH - "No Assholes Here," for when no one is technically in the wrong, the conflict was simply a misunderstanding
ESH - "Everyone Sucks Here," for when all parties are in the wrong and all of you should be ashamed of yourselves
JAH - "Justified Asshole," for when OP is definitely an asshole, but for good reason
INFO - "Information," for when the story is too vague to make a decision, usually followed by a question

Stories should include the OP's name in brackets and then a punchy title in the subject line. Additionally, you may use [ANONYMOUS] in place of your name--- this will allow players to know who OP is, but the characters will not know. Have fun!

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I've been on this island for ages, working in a pretty niche job. In the years before the barrier went up, I worked with someone who was warm and driven, but he died, along with many people I'm close with. I've been doing my work alone for the past years, and while I'm not as passionate as I once was, my superiors have given me no indication either way how they feel about my work.

One of the new arrivals to the island, however, has gained the favor of my superiors, and has been slotted in to train for the position of my former partner. I'm not mad that this would put him above me, not really.

I'm just...frustrated, that he's getting communication from the higher-ups when I haven't. I feel betrayed, even though the new guy is really sweet and kind. He's naive, though, and I'm stuck teaching him everything about our industry from the ground up.

Reading back what I've written, I sound petty, I know. But. Am I the asshole?

Sounds to me like your managers are the assholes.

How would that work?

Your managers aren't giving you performance reviews. You're stuck in a job where you're handling the duties of your departed coworker in addition, and instead of acknowledging your hard work with a raise or something, your managers go behind your back and hire somebody new for the position. It's not even someone with experience! You're being told to train the new guy.

If the managers had a problem with you, they should have communicated it. That they didn't makes their actions sound like those of a bunch of assholes.

Let the record show I'm not the one who said that, in case they ever come across this.

They're good, though, my managers. I know they want for the company as a whole to prosper. They want everyone to succeed.

NAH. The new guy can't be blamed for taking advantage of the opportunities he has been given, but it's not wrong for you to feel frustrated that your years of dedication are being overlooked in favor of him. It's very understandable.

If anyone's an asshole here, it's your superiors for not communicating better with you.

At this point, I'm beginning to believe they're fundamentally incapable of it.

Monthly Meme - The AITAs of March

[ANON] AITA for being jealous of the new guy?

....ooh, I gotta.

[Still Anon]

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eternally anon

anon

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