Monthly Meme - The AITAs of March

[pumpkinhollow]

BEWARE THE AITAS

C

ry havoc, and let slip the hounds of war interpersonal conflict! In this month's mingle, spin us a yarn of drama, suspense, romance, or petty arguments. Submit the tale for judgement to the court of public opinion, in pursuit of the answer to one all-important question--- "Am I the asshole?" You may defend yourself, but ultimately it is up to your neighbors to decide your fate.

Unlike other public forums, we don't have any rules about fake stories, validation posts, excessive arguments in the comments, or stabbing the emperor. Fudge details to your heart's content, but don't be surprised if the other people involve in the story jump in with a counter-argument. To vote, here is a glossary of important shorthand:

• OP - "Original poster", the person who submitted the story
• YTA - "You're the Asshole," for when the OP is the primary wrongdoer
• NTA - "Not the Asshole," for when the OP is the one who was wronged
• NAH - "No Assholes Here," for when no one is technically in the wrong, the conflict was simply a misunderstanding
• ESH - "Everyone Sucks Here," for when all parties are in the wrong and all of you should be ashamed of yourselves
• JAH - "Justified Asshole," for when OP is definitely an asshole, but for good reason
• INFO - "Information," for when the story is too vague to make a decision, usually followed by a question

Stories should include the OP's name in brackets and then a punchy title in the subject line. Additionally, you may use [ANONYMOUS] in place of your name--- this will allow players to know who OP is, but the characters will not know. Have fun!

Comments

[ANON] AITA for staying out of it?

[skeletonkeay]

Ages and genders not included because I don't wanna.

So you know how Calloway sells stuff that actually belongs to people? Like he finds it in the woods or the sea or whatever and upcharges you to hell and back to buy your own shit? Well, a friend of mine bought something that belonged to my partner. Something kind of sensitive. I was gonna get it for them, but I went in the shop and found it gone and then later I saw it at my friend's house. I didn't realize that my friend was planning on giving it back and just kinda flipped out, and there was a stupid blow-up about it. I threatened to hit them, they mind-controlled me, it was dumb.

Since then we've made up but I had told my partner my version of things which was. Incomplete. So now they're still really pissed at my friend. I've encouraged my friend to reach out and it doesn't seem to be working? I dunno what was said, I've insisted that it's between the two of them and stayed in my lane. I don't wanna push my partner's buttons. But I kinda wonder if I should step in since the misinformation is my own stupid fault. AITA?

[redlightgreenlight]

The mind control is concerning and we would need more details on that before we can judge the actions of your friend, but YTA for jumping to assumptions about your friend without giving them the chance to explain and for letting your partner believe the incomplete version of the story.

It's on you to make it right since the misunderstanding is on your shoulders.

[skeletonkeay]

Fair enough. S'why I asked. In fairness, the assumption was 90% blind panic and 10% based on precedence, but it's kinda hard to elaborate without giving details about the item that I'm not keen to share for my partner's safety and wellbeing. I also figured that my friend told my partner the complete version of the story, but I don't actually know for sure now that I think about it.

I'll sit 'em down.

[gruesomegourmand]

Very gentle YTA. Understanding the intentions of another person is important, and it's always hard to clear up a hurtful miscommunication once it's been made.

Saying that, though, I understand why you would react that way. You were trying to protect someone you love. Maybe if it continues to go badly, a conversation with all of you might help, to clear the air with everyone all together?

[thelatechrisfreeman]

NAH except Calloway but imo if you continue with letting the misinformation fester that would make you an asshole.

Maybe all three of you should sit down together, talk it out. Make sure everybody's on the same page.

[lasthumanvoice]

ESH - including your partner, for whom a grudge is like a fine wine to stick in the cellar and pull out for tiny sips on special occasions. It is not something new about me.

Also, could you even give my age accurately?

[skeletonkeay]

I give my partner a pass for having a nice ass, which automatically gives him permission to do anything.

Also I don't even think you could give your age correctly.

Talk soon?

[lasthumanvoice]

Please talk soon. He did apologize to me at Merrymeet.

[inaurate]

This was NAH until you didn't clear things up with your partner after things were settled between you and your friend. They're working with an incomplete picture of what went down. You can say that you don't want to insert yourself in the situation, but it sounds like you were a part of it to begin with. Yeah, your friend should definitely speak up on their own behalf, but as their friend, you have an opportunity to help them get along better with your partner. I'd say that's worth getting involved. It's not meddling to help fix a situation you had a part in creating, anyway.